Let’s Fall in Love, Dear Readers

Dear Readers, Let's Fall in Love

Valentine’s Day is only a couple of days away: let’s play a little game.

A few weeks ago, the NY Times came out with an article that broke the internet: The 36 questions that lead to love. Dr. Arthur Aron’s theory argues that intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions separated in 3 sets, ranging from lighthearted to deeply probing.

A few of my favorite gals, Hallie, Victoria and Grace, took to their blogs to test the experiment with readers. Victoria thoughtfully expressed that “what makes the questionnaire effective amongst would-be couples isn’t any magic formula, it’s that the questions allow for (and perhaps force) vulnerability”. Oddly enough, I was watching this Ted Talk just this morning, so it all makes sense.

ANYWHO—I don’t often talk about myself around here, and I also don’t often have the opportunity to get to know you better, so I figured I’d answer (most of) the 36 questions to the best of my ability and let you guys get to know me better. You can play too if you’d like—pick any question(s) that resonate with you, and write your own answers in the comments below. Here it goes!

set 1

Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?  I would be really happy to eat with my favorite comedians, like Jimmy Fallon or Mindy Kaling, so I could spill my drink through my nose and get an ab workout while devouring a lasagna. Laughter may be the best medicine, but it’s also food for the soul.

Would you like to be famous? In what way? I wouldn’t want to be famous for fame’s sake. I would also hate to live the kind of fame where tabloids scrutinize your every move, like by pointing out how much you look like crap after a 14-hour flight (I know). But I would love to be recognized in my field of work, leave my mark, make a difference and inspire others.

Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? If I need to have a difficult conversations, get a point across or negotiate something, I go through what I’ll say in my mind before making the call. I need to make sure that my thoughts are well-organized and that I’m not forgetting anything.

What would constitute a perfect day for you? Waking up in a comfortable room by the ocean, going for a lazy but healthy brunch in the sun, going for a drive, just because, with the roof down and the music up, popping into my favorite stores for inspiration, catching up with friends for coffee, getting home in time to play a couple hours of tennis or go for a run on the beach, then getting ready for cocktails and a nice dinner and/or cooking with friends and family. I’d finish off by taking a walk on the beach or going dancing.

If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want? Keeping a youthful mind is so important—it definitely trumps not having a few wrinkles on your face. Besides, I’d like to think that my youthful mind would help me take care of my body by hydrating (note to self: hydrate more) and generally taking care of my appearance. I’ve seen some 90 year olds that still look pretty smashing.

Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die? I never thought about it—it feels a little morbid. But I have a light hypochondriac side, so whenever I’m feeling a little chest pain or whatever, I think for a brief moment that I must have an underlying heart disease or some type of terminal illness. Those moments never last more than a few seconds thankfully.

Name three things you and your partner readers (that’s you!) appear to have in common. We are an ambitious bunch: young, well-educated, career-oriented and ready for the hustle. We value the importance of a well-designed house, not just for the aesthetic aspect, but for the comfort and quality of life it brings. We like to be in-the-know: we have champagne taste on a beer budget so any life hacks that will help us score the best travel deals or save money when decorating our homes is welcomed. We like to be that friend that every one goes to to know what’s hot and happening right now.

For what in life do you feel the most grateful? For the unconditional love and support of my family and friends. For having the strength of character to go after what I want.

If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be? I’d love to be a morning person! I wake up at a reasonable time and I’m not a total sloth, but I do love my snooze button. I always secretly dreamed of being the type of person who has already done a one-hour work out, eaten a super-healthy breakfast and answered 100 emails by 7am.

set 2

If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know? How big, happy and healthy my family will be. In my twenties I’ve focused more on building my career, but I’d be lying if I said that raising a healthy and happy family wasn’t also paramount.

Is there something you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it? Move to a new city. I always secretly thought I’d end up in California, but I wouldn’t hate if it happened by way of New York City. The city energizes me so much and I’m always in awe of the work-ethic and hustle of New Yorkers. I haven’t made the move yet because the timing hasn’t been right and I’ve had other priorities. But it’s on my radar.

What is the greatest accomplishment of your life? To have had the courage to build a business and branch out on my own. I sometimes get stressed and caught up in the daily hurdles, but looking back at how far I’ve grown professionally in the last 2-3 years always makes me feel a sense of accomplishment that’s second to none.

What do you value the most in a friendship? Honesty and sincerity : tell me what I need to hear, even if I don’t want to hear it. Optimism: life gets tough sometimes, but with a good attitude, a sense of humor and great friends, you can overcome anything. Two-way unconditional support: I like to know my friends will be there for me just as they know I’d be there for them.

What is your most treasured memory? The combination of my travels around the world, particularly a week in the South of France with my family. It was a “wake-up, eat, swim, nap, play, cook, drink, rinse & repeat” kind of week. I was living far away at the time and only got to see my family once a year, so each moment with them during that trip felt extra special.

If you knew that in one year you’d die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? I wouldn’t change much—I love my life as it is, but I’d probably make more time to spend with the people I love and to travel the world. And I’d procrastinate less! Damn, I really should be doing all these things anyway right—that was the point of this question wasn’t it?

How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s? I definitely have what you would call a “modern family” with all the clichés this implies, but at the core, we’re a fun, close-knit, loving and welcoming bunch. I always treasure the time I spend with my family, so I’d say that makes me luckier than most.

How do you feel about your relationship to your mother? We’re like two peas in a pod. In some ways we’re very different but we connect in so many other ways. I always have a ball with her—we really crack each other up. I can also be thankful that I’ve always felt comfortable talking to her about anything—and that has made us really close over the years.

set 3

I wish I had someone with whom I could share… My work! Everyone always says “oh you’re so lucky to be working from home!” but I secretly can’t wait to rent an office space and hire my first employees to bounce ideas off them and throw silly office parties.

If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for the or her to know. I try to keep a healthy lifestyle, but I work-out much more when I’m unhappy or stressed. If you see me bust 5-miles sprint marathons everyday and start going to bikram yoga, it’s time to worry.

Share with your partner readers an embarrassing moment in your life. I have a clumsy side. I tend to put my foot in my mouth and/or fall on my face more often than I care to admit. Annnnnd let’s just leave it at that.

When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself? The last time I remember crying is during a huge fight with one of my closest girlfriends about a month ago. I’m pretty sure I cried in front of a bunch of people (and by myself) during that week-long feud. I’m happy to report we’ve patched things up and we’re fine now. #girldrama

Tell your partner readers something you like about them already. I looooove when you guys send me comments, emails, tweets. You guys are smart, witty and an all around awesome bunch and I wish I knew each of you better!

Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why? I was going to (embarrassingly) say my computer, but I feel like with everything being on iCloud/Dropbox/Google Drive these days, I could probably recover most things (note to self: back up computer). So I’ll go with art—most things are just that—things—and they’re replaceable. But art is unique.

Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Whoa, this is getting deep people. Without hesitation, my mom. She’s my rock and I can’t even start to imagine how lost I would feel.

your turn!

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